Thursday, March 15, 2018

15 Questions for your kids

Everyday in the car ride home I always ask my boys, “how was your day?”

To my frustration the answer is always, “good”.

That’s it. All I get.

So, being  the genius I am, I created a two step plan to get my kids talking. 

My first plan of attack began this past fall. It was risky, but, I grit my teeth and weathered the complaints; I completely cut out any electronics from the table. No TV, phone, tablet, nothing
Honestly, it’s something I should have done long ago because dinner up to that point, consisted of the boys at the table nose deep in a device. My kids were not happy with this change at all! I'm pretty sure there may have even been some tears.. But, it’s made all the difference in the world. Now, dinner is spent completely focused on one another and really engaging in conversation. Part 1 of my plan was a success.
Part 2 of plan was to really get the kids talking. I mean really talking. Beyond the tattling on one another, I wanted real conversation to get to know the little men I’m raising.  So, I did what you would do when you are getting to know someone, I asked questions. Now, I have googled and thought and asked a gazillion questions since I started this, and some have led to some awesome conversation. Some nights dinner is spent just going around the table asking questions. Both are better to the alternative and I promise either way you will learn something.

To help jump start you at your own dinner table here are a few questions that have led to some awesome conversation with my little men:

Tell me about the best part of your day.

What was the hardest thing you had to do today?

What’s something you did today to show kindness?

Who did you play with today? What did you play?

What’s the biggest difference between this year and last year?

What rules are different at school than at home? Why do you think they are different?

Who do you sit with at lunch?

Tell me 5 words to describe you?

What do you love doing that makes you feel happiest?

What’s the most wonderful thing that’s happened to you?

What was the worst? What did you learn from it?
   If you could travel back in time 3 years earlier and visit yourself, what advice would you give?
What are you most grateful for?

Who is your best friend, why?

How would you change the world if you could?

Obviously, you can’t ask the same questions every time. A lot of times we don’t even make it through the list I have, because dinner is over but there have been some nights we stay at the table way past being done; those nights are the best. So, nab these questions or come up with your own but give it a try. Try to keep the questions positive and thought provoking and have fun with it. It’s so much fun to listen to their answers and get a glimpse at the world through their eyes.

Thursday, March 8, 2018

Happy Soul

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I'm a glass half full kind of girl, always have been.

No matter the situation or the struggle that's happening in my life, I always dig as deep as I can to see the best in every thing and every one. There are some, more so than others, who make easy to do. There are situations, no matter how hard I try I cannot see the best and emotions take over. I'm flawed. But, because of the innate desire in me to see the world as I want it to be and not how it is, I am genuinely a happy person.

To see the positive things in your life and ignore the negative is, I really truly believe, the key to happiness. No matter what your life is like, you will always find someone who is better or worse off than you. The richest person in the world could still find something negative in his life if he wanted to. It's there, but it's all about perspective.

Individual happiness is so attainable. Your first thoughts everyday set the tone. The way you react to stress, controls your perspective. The way you view your struggles, controls your perception of your victories. Actively seeing the positive is hard. It takes practice and work, but I promise, what you put out into the universe will come back to you. So, smile. Refuse to see the bad, block out the negativity, love like you will never be hurt and take the time to do something that makes your soul happy.