Advice from a woman..

With Valentine’s day on the horizon, everyone is shifting their focus to love. This Valentine’s day is a wonderful time to commit to focusing on your relationship. All relationships, no matter if you’re married, dating, gay or straight, are delicately intricate. Women in general are immensely complicated. So, I feel like as a woman who has been through marriage and divorce I have a duty to enlighten those of you who may be clueless on how to treat a woman.

Below are a few of the ways you can make her feel like the most important person in your life.  

Your partner is unique

    Celebrate the fact that your darling is one of kind. Love her exactly how she is and don’t try to change her.

Big your partners biggest fan

It’s easy to take for granted that she needs someone in her corner. She needs someone who is going to have her back no matter what. Be her number one fan, root for her!

Listen

Make mental notes of what your darling is saying. Don’t go through the motions, really listen to what she is saying.

Show gratitude

Every day make a point to show your darling she is appreciated. Simply saying thank you will go a long way. She doesn’t have to take out the trash or fix dinner, but she did. Say thank you, and show gratitude.

Communication is crucial

If you don’t make it an important part of your relationship you will both be lost. Without communicating you don’t know how she feels or what she is thinking. She could be blowing a situation way out of proportion. Take the time to talk about things, no matter how big or small.

Respect her

Show respect to your darling in all things, every day.

Build her up

Your darling may or may not hold an outside job, get paid more, do more physical or mental work. None of that matters. What does matter is that you build her up. She is your equal and your partner. Put her on the pedestal she deserves.

Make the choice

Every single day you must wake up and chose to love her.

Make the time

With work, kids and life in general it can be easy to let alone time fall by the wayside. Make the choice to have date nights. Put her first. Go on an adventure together and try new things. Never let your relationship get in a rut. Show her she is the most important person in your life.

Be kind

Show kindness. Speak with kindness. Hurtful words hurt the most coming from someone who is supposed to love you.

Best friend

Be her best friend. Be loyal, keep your word, share secrets, make her laugh. Friendship adds a wonderful kind of closeness.

Explore

Learn everything about her. Find out what makes her happy, what makes her who she is. Celebrate these things.

Intimacy

Get naked. Have sex. Cuddle. Fall asleep in each other’s arms. There are so many ways to be intimate with her. Know what she likes and make time for that. No matter how tired you are, take time to connect in the most intimate ways. Always keep the flame burning.

Be a real partner

Share the load. Help with household chores. Buy flowers. Do small things that take little time and money, they mean the most.

Growth is a part of life

She will change and grow, this is a wonderful thing. Life is about growth, be there and encourage her. Grow with her.

Say I love you

And mean it…

Relationships start to crumble when you make her feel like she is replaceable or not enough. You will lose her a little more each day when you make her feel like she needs to change or hide herself from you. Make her a priority. Make her feel needed. Know every single day you are the luckiest person in the world to get to love her for another day. Don’t take your love for granted. It took me a lot of years and finally being loved to know what I was missing. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

The woman who has shown me what love and happiness is..